Hi I am new to this so bear wit me if I don't get this right! (I'm 25 years old)
About 5 months ago I separated from my husband of 4 years, I moved back to my hometown and started going out with old friends partying, chillin', and what not. In that process I reconnected wit an old co-worker and we started chattin' online. This co-worker turned into a friend, we would of course flirt (he was separated from his baby's momma), talk erotically, and sumtimes talk about life, future plans, friends, drama, past histories, and other topics (non-sex related).
After talking for two months online (we still hadn't chilled in person) we started talking about becomin' friends with benefits in order to satisfy our needs to be intimate. Everytime we tried to get together to do what we have to do, plans would change on his part. Now in february I asked him to be my valentine and he agreed, so we planned to meet the day before valentine to be with each other physically.
So about 2 days before v-day he write me a message sayin'he got together with his baby's momma, he says for his baby's sake (Is that supposed to imply that he doesn't love his baby's momma?) and has to cancel because he doesn't think its right (for right now) to cheat on her because they officially go out now.
(Is he thinkin' I will get with him if they break up again?)
I understood him about not cheating on her and wat not but i guess i was pissed off and disappointed. Because he spit so much game and to not go thru with it, it got me really mad.
Ok so we remained friends to this day but he hardly chats with me anymore. (We used to chat daily and every night for hours). I recently wrote him askin wat his deal is and why he hasn't responded to my messages. He responded back saying he has been busy and went on giving me a detailed description of what he has been up to.
Well my concern is since he has a jealous girlfriend that we are never as friends only going to be able to chill or conversate without her jealous moods gettin in the way of our friendship.
Is it wrong that I miss him speakin to him?
I don't know wat to think anymore. I miss speakin' 2 him but i don't want to jeopardize him losing his son because of her jealous ways.
Should I cut my ties with him (which would be difficult cause we have mutual friends)? or Should I remain friends with him?
(note: i'm still not divorced to this day, but will be soon)
Please Help!
About 5 months ago I separated from my husband of 4 years, I moved back to my hometown and started going out with old friends partying, chillin', and what not. In that process I reconnected wit an old co-worker and we started chattin' online. This co-worker turned into a friend, we would of course flirt (he was separated from his baby's momma), talk erotically, and sumtimes talk about life, future plans, friends, drama, past histories, and other topics (non-sex related).
After talking for two months online (we still hadn't chilled in person) we started talking about becomin' friends with benefits in order to satisfy our needs to be intimate. Everytime we tried to get together to do what we have to do, plans would change on his part. Now in february I asked him to be my valentine and he agreed, so we planned to meet the day before valentine to be with each other physically.
So about 2 days before v-day he write me a message sayin'he got together with his baby's momma, he says for his baby's sake (Is that supposed to imply that he doesn't love his baby's momma?) and has to cancel because he doesn't think its right (for right now) to cheat on her because they officially go out now.
(Is he thinkin' I will get with him if they break up again?)
I understood him about not cheating on her and wat not but i guess i was pissed off and disappointed. Because he spit so much game and to not go thru with it, it got me really mad.
Ok so we remained friends to this day but he hardly chats with me anymore. (We used to chat daily and every night for hours). I recently wrote him askin wat his deal is and why he hasn't responded to my messages. He responded back saying he has been busy and went on giving me a detailed description of what he has been up to.
Well my concern is since he has a jealous girlfriend that we are never as friends only going to be able to chill or conversate without her jealous moods gettin in the way of our friendship.
Is it wrong that I miss him speakin to him?
I don't know wat to think anymore. I miss speakin' 2 him but i don't want to jeopardize him losing his son because of her jealous ways.
Should I cut my ties with him (which would be difficult cause we have mutual friends)? or Should I remain friends with him?
(note: i'm still not divorced to this day, but will be soon)
Please Help!
