Salvadoran boyfriend

[Beth]

ADVICE PLEASE! I am a divorced white American lady with three kids. This Salvadoran guy is five years younger than me, and he calls me at least once a day for a week now. I really like him, but I don't know how to proceed. He tells me "te quiero" and "me encanta hablar con Ud." I asked him if he wanted to get off the phone so he could rest because he worked all day, and he asked if I wanted to rest with him! I told him he can look elsewhere for that. HE apologized and said that he didn't mean it that way. I really like this guy. BUT I DON'T KNOW IF HE IS JUST TRYING TO PLAY ME. I asked him,and he said he's not trying to play me, he promised to respect me if I will be his "novia". HE is twenty four years old, in the USA for 3 years, claims to have no girlfriend, wife , or kids nowhere. I would like if someone can advise me how to proceed, because I really would like to have something serious with this guy and to have sex eventually (I guess we don't have to wait until marriage???!!!) but I don't know if he will disrespect me after sex. How long should I wait to have sex with him, and how can I tell if he is serious about me? I know this sounds stupid because I have been married before, but it is the cultural difference between me and him that confuses me and makes me wonder if all the nice words are just to get me into bed????!!!!!!

 

[chicano]

Well he sounds like a nice guy. Give him a chance and see what happens between you two. You never know, he can end up being that right one, but keep in mind of the things he talks to you about or the things he wants to do.

If you two end up going out and if all he's talking to you about is sex or he keeps bringing it up and wants to do only that with you, then just let the guy go because it's more then obvious thats all he wants.

If you really do like him then see what happens and try it out. Wish you the best of luck.

 

[DaKing]

Why he gotta be el Salvadorian?
J/k

I say give him a chance, just don't give it all too quick. ya know?

 

[Beth]

Thank you for the advice! You guys were right...I gave him a chance and it turned out fine. we went out. He was really nice, and didn't try anything. I think he's a nice guy. We'll see what happens.