is this complete manipulation?

[sunsagleaming]

say you dated a person for 9 months broke up for 2 years and you called them and they started dating you again. immediately following the second time around they told you they did not love you, then a few weeks later they told you they truly did love you but didn't admit it because of fear.

when asked if during the 2 year break up they still loved you they said they did, reminding you how they kept EVERYTHING from a scrap of paper to pictures during the ENTIRE two years.

fast forward.....a year and a half.

when asked if they love you now , they say.....NO! that they LOVE YOU but are NOT in love with you AND that during the 2 year break up they DID NOT LOVE YOU and did everything they could TO FORGET YOU which is a 180 degree turn around from what they said a year and a half ago.

^^^^and it gets worse.

say you caught them with multiple profiles after promising to stop hitting on women and acting single. when asked about it...they say during drunkeness...."i love all women and like to look at pussy"...(looking @ porn is ok) web camming, emailing, and IM'ng pics is more don't you agree?

ok....so what would you do?


believe that actions speak louder than words or hope for the best which is probably just settling for being manipulated!

what are your thoughts? you may vote for more than one option in the poll.

 

[just_dannie]

I say run as fast as you can from the idiot you just described .. you deserve better!

 

[sunsagleaming]

I say run as fast as you can from the filth you just described .. you deserve better!

i agree thanks dannie and much luv to you!! hope everything is going good for you!

 

[just_dannie]

Aww, thank ya much girl!! And yes, everything is going good here!!

How's the lil man doing??

 

[sunsagleaming]

thanks girl he is doing great this year @ school! he comes up to my shoulder and i'm 5'8"!!!

 

[just_dannie]

thanks girl he is doing great this year @ school! he comes up to my shoulder and i'm 5'8"!!!

wow!! And you're tall too!!

I'm so glad he's doing well sunsa ..

 

[TreeAir]

1st off i'd like to say i commend both of you women as you both appear to be grown unique mothers, it seems as if both of you have known one another for quite some time now. It's a pleasure to meet you both, as i cross paths with both of you women at the moment.

But i'd like to share my thoughts i have for you sunsagleaming, it appears that this "lover or x" of yours has been trying to play mind games with your brains left hemisphere. I don't think this man is ready to settle down as you explained that he has numerous aliases online and sends private as well as sexual information via IM'ing and Email to various women. Perhaps he will love you forever, but from my perspective he is not in love with you like you previously stated. It seems as if he is not ready to dedicate his body and soul to you 100% or commit i should say, he's not looking for any type of relationship.

Don't let this hold you down, find a way within your spirit to bring your self up and to break away from this little chaos you have going on. You have a life to live, and you shouldn't let anything get in your way, enjoy the power and beauty of your youth. Your choices are indeed half chance stay strong minded you'll get through it

 

[just_dannie]

Thank you Treeair .. and yes, I've known sunsa for a minute now - she's a smart, strong, and independent woman who deserves a man who will love her and her son - someone, as you say, who is committed heart and soul to only her, who will bring peace to her and her lil man's life.

I don't know about anyone else, but I don't play well with others on a good day, so sharing is NOT an option in a relationship setting! Also sunsa, imho, going backwards (x wise) isn't a good idea - for whatever reason, it didn't work the first time - and so for me personally - I'd walk forward and not bother to look back.

 

[sunsagleaming]

tree air, thank u so much 4 your kind words. u seem 2 b a very spiritual person! i value your insight n hope 2 get 2 know ya better! dani, your right! i just smiled when i read your comments! my self esteem has been down n the dumps no doubt but it sure helps 2 hear the truth 4rm a dear friend. thanks so much tree/dani.

 

[TreeAir]

Thank you Treeair .. and yes, I've known sunsa for a minute now - she's a smart, strong, and independent woman who deserves a man who will love her and her son - someone, as you say, who is committed heart and soul to only her, who will bring peace to her and her lil man's life.

I don't know about anyone else, but I don't play well with others on a good day, so sharing is NOT an option in a relationship setting! Also sunsa, imho, going backwards (x wise) isn't a good idea - for whatever reason, it didn't work the first time - and so for me personally - I'd walk forward and not bother to look back.

You are very welcome Dannie, thats good i've realized both of you women are similar in various ways which is a good thing i think ha ha. Both strong minded, and tough loving mothers doing the best they can to raise their children in the proper way. Yes a man who will take flight in not just her life but her childs as well they come in a package

tree air, thank u so much 4 your kind words. u seem 2 b a very spiritual person! i value your insight n hope 2 get 2 know ya better! dani, your right! i just smiled when i read your comments! my self esteem has been down n the dumps no doubt but it sure helps 2 hear the truth 4rm a dear friend. thanks so much tree/dani.

Just wanted to bring some joy to your heart perhaps make it smile and shine in the sun. Yea i try to be free spirited, i also like to take journeys through the wilderness and meditate just to escape society for a few years and reflect on how peaceful and still mother nature is. Brings me to the meditating state of mind to relax and listen to the sounds as well as the smell of the breeze. Yea if anything look to upgrade if you're looking for a gentleman, take your time no need to rush just take it easy and slow it'll come to you when the time is right and perhaps when you least expect it

Take Good care of your self perhaps we shall cross paths once again sometime soon gentle ladies

 

[Domented]

sounds like a waist of time y b with someoone tat pathetic

 

[chill]

Thats not love at all. Just leave em. Itll just get worst and worst